Among my friends, I have really big eyes, white skin, and really pretty facial features from when I was a trainee. I always get compliments from people around me, and I have a great body.
I had a candid conversation with her this time while drinking, right?
My own worries, since I was young, everyone around me confessed that she was the prettiest at school, I came up on the school community, and I spent my whole life hearing about my appearance, so
it seems like everyone likes me because of my looks, and my worth seems to be all about my looks, and if I don't have looks, I don't care. He said that it seemed like it was already over and that he would still be treated like this even when he was in his 30s and 40s. He said that he was afraid of aging and that he was obsessed with taking care of it and couldn't stop being obsessed with his appearance.
Even in her family, her father said, ‘A woman must first look pretty, so you should do yoga or exercise to make your body prettier.’ Her mother said, ‘You’re pretty, but you should get surgery on your calves.’ She also got evaluated on her appearance by her aunt, and was praised for being pretty + regretful. I had a friend who always had a high and pretty nose because she grew up hearing comments about her appearance after being judged for
her appearance, but she told me that she needed to get plastic surgery on the tip of her nose to make her look prettier, and that she wanted to fix other parts of her nose as well. The more I hear compliments about my appearance, the more obsessed I become, and it drives me crazy. I'm so stressed out, but I want to escape from the shackles of my appearance.
People who grew up hearing only that they're ugly become obsessed with their appearance, and conversely, people who grew up only hearing that they're pretty seem to become obsessed, too.
On YouTube . I watched Dr. Eunyoung Oh's video this time, and she said that praise is toxic and that it's better not to say it at all. It 's the same in other areas, too. If you hear that you're good at studying or that you're good at studying, you'll feel like you have to keep doing well to maintain a top rank. It's the same thing.
진짜 마자 어릴때 정말 예뻐서 어딜가든 외모 칭찬만 받아서 어릴때부터 외모강박 심했어 커가면서 평범~이쁘장되니깐 예전만큼 칭찬 못 받고 주변 어른들도 만나면 옛날에 정말 이뻤는데 살을 너무 빼서 이렇게된거 같다 저렇게 된거 같다 이런식으로 품평하는게 일상임 ㅋㅋㅋㅋ 나 20살에 정병 우울증 강박장애 와서 친구도 다 잃고 집에서만 살아 밥도 하루에 한끼먹고 과수면으로 하루 15시간씩 자고 이미 인생 망한거 같아서 다 포기하고 싶어 물론 내 우울증에 전부가 외모때문은 아니지만 아무튼 외모칭찬 되도록 안하는게 좋은거 같아
진짜 공감이다.. 가족들 외지주 개심하고 숨쉬듯 평가에 절여져서 나도 똑같은 어른으로 컸는데 예쁘다 소리 안들으면 나 안예쁜가? 하고 존나 지랄염병떨어 혼자.. 그리고 지인이랑 다퉜는데 내가 연예인만큼 예뻤으면 내가 움츠리고 다닐 일도 없지 않을까? 이런생각하고 얼굴에 손 한번도 안댔었는데 이번에 쌍수함.. 마음만 더 울적해지고 이런 생각하는 내 자신이 무슨 공주병 환자같고 한데 멈출수가없다
ㅋㅋㅋㅋ 이거 나다 난 원래 외모 관심도 없고 공부만 하는애 1이었는데 하도 주변에서 예쁘다 하고 친해지고 싶어하고 남자들이 관심 가져주니까 이 버프 없이 어케살지 이런생각 엄청 들어 늙는거 너무 무섭고... 시술 해가면서 노화 틀어막고 살고는 있는데 언젠가는 소용이 없어지잖아이것도... 정병오는것도 가지가지야 하여튼....